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If you’ve ever walked away from a church feeling confused, hurt, or questioning yourself… this conversation is for you.

Because the truth is—most toxic churches don’t look toxic on the outside.

In this episode, I sit down with theologian and author Scot McKnight to unpack what’s really happening behind the scenes in unhealthy church environments—and why so many people struggle to put words to their experience.

We talk about toxic church culture, narcissistic leadership, misuse of power, and what it actually looks like to build a healthy, life-giving church rooted in goodness.

If you’ve experienced church hurt, this episode will help you understand what happened—and begin to move forward with clarity.

🎯 WHAT WE COVER

• Why toxic churches often look healthy on the outside

• The role of narcissistic leaders in church culture

• How power gets misused behind the scenes

• Why you can’t always “see it” from the platform

• How Scripture can be misapplied in unhealthy environments

• The difference between toxic culture and “Tov” (goodness) culture

• When it may be time to step back or leave

• How to begin healing from church hurt

⏱️ TIMESTAMPS

0:00 The truth about church hurt
1:10 Why toxic churches look healthy
4:30 What “Tov” culture means
8:45 Power and control in church leadership
14:20 Why toxicity is hidden behind the scenes
19:10 Narcissistic leaders and why they don’t change
25:30 Misuse of Scripture in toxic environments
31:40 Stay or leave? Navigating hard decisions
38:20 What healthy leadership actually looks like
45:00 Healing from church hurt

📚 RESOURCES

📖 Grab Scot McKnight’s book:
A Church Called Tov: Forming a Goodness Culture That Resists Abuses of Power and Promotes Healing
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✉️ NEXT STEP

If you’ve walked through church hurt, one of the hardest things can be learning to trust again—especially when it comes to hearing God’s voice for yourself.

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💬 LET’S TALK

Have you ever experienced church hurt or seen unhealthy leadership up close?

I’d love to hear your thoughts—drop a comment below or share this episode with someone who needs it.

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