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Joel and Mary Beeke have spent decades studying, teaching, and living what the Bible says about marriage.

In a culture where relationships are increasingly fragile and confused, their message is both simple and deeply countercultural: strong marriages are built on holiness, kindness, sacrifice, and a shared love for God.

Joel Beeke is a pastor, theologian, and author of more than 100 books. Mary Beeke is a teacher, writer, and longtime pastor’s wife who has helped generations of women and families cultivate strong Christian homes.

Together they wrote How to Build a Godly Marriage: 12 Principles for Flourishing and Lasting.

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In this conversation we explore the biblical foundation of marriage, why many couples slowly drift apart, and how Scripture provides a model for love, respect, friendship, and lifelong commitment.

Joel and Mary also explain the Puritan understanding of marriage — often misunderstood today — and why holiness, not emotional intensity, is the true foundation of lasting happiness.

If you want to build a strong Christian marriage, lead your household well, and recover the deeper wisdom of the Christian tradition, this conversation offers both practical guidance and time-tested insight.

What part of this conversation stood out to you most? Let me know below.

📚 MORE WITH JOEL BEEKE

Watch my previous conversations with Dr. Beeke:

▶️ Family Leadership for Men - https://youtu.be/un2PyHnTRDQ?si=_qDdULJwY6NivfG5
▶️ Killing Sin, Living for Jesus — https://youtu.be/0oXAvPYi-8I?si=IfLhtvVcaXc-tziC

⏱️ TIMESTAMPS

00:00 — Open
00:28 — Why they wrote this book
04:19 — Treat spouse better than others
08:13 — Loving God first in marriage
12:03 — Biblical roles: husband & wife
18:14 — Trust, money, and agreement
27:10 — When couples lack good models
31:35 — Puritans on joyful marriage
35:03 — Holiness produces happiness
39:40 — 🔥 Mentorship break
41:37 — The law of kindness
48:49 — Teaching children to work
51:59 — Encouragement for marriages
53:17 — Closing prayer

🧠 WE EXPLORE

• The biblical foundation of Christian marriage
• Why many couples gradually drift apart
• Sacrificial love and respect in marriage
• The Puritan vision of marriage and happiness
• Why holiness produces lasting joy
• The importance of kindness and communication
• Building trust and unity in marriage
• Raising children with responsibility and faith

👥 GUEST LINKS

Book discussed in this episode:
How to Build a Godly Marriage: 12 Principles for Flourishing and Lasting
https://heritagebooks.org/products/how-to-build-a-godly-marriage-beeke.html

Joel Beeke
Puritan Reformed Theological Seminary — https://prts.edu
Reformation Heritage Books — https://heritagebooks.org

Mary Beeke
The Law of Kindness - https://heritagebooks.org/products/the-law-of-kindness-beeke.html
Teach Them to Work - https://heritagebooks.org/products/teach-them-to-work-building-a-positive-work-ethic-in-our-children-beeke.html

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